Recovery & Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
Ref: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing
I am Lisa E. Scott, the Author of All About Him and Besting Selling eBook, Surviving A Narcissist – The Path Forward.
Nobody knows better the pain of living with, loving, and leaving a narcissist better than I. I have been there and I know, first hand, how it feels to be the guiding shadow of a damaged man. I know what you are going through and have personally witnessed the pain and hopelessness you might be experiencing.
Like many, I have gone through the pain of having my life turned inside out as the result of narcissistic abuse. I know exactly how it feels to reach the lowest of lows, and I know exactly what it feels like to be in a relationship with a narcissist.
Infact, at my lowest point, I often wondered if I would ever survive the abuse, and wondered if the pain would ever end. I remember being at a point where I couldn’t eat, or sleep. I couldn’t go to work or socialize with people. Bascially I was NUMB!
My friends and family couldn’t understand the depth of the pain I was in..
I would have loved to be able to just “get over it!” But this was one of the most difficult challenges life had brought my way. Even the doctors and psychologists couldn’t help me other than to give me medication to help me “cope.” I went on anti-depressants on the recommendation of a therapist who thought it would help me to eat and sleep.
Unfortunately, I lived it, I breathed it and yes; I survived it! That is exactly why I wrote, Surviving A Narcissist, to let you know..
You can survive it too!
Not only so, my ex-husband was a narcissist. Not just someone who exhibited narcissistic tendencies, but someone who was diagnosed with pathological narcissism by his own therapist.
While I never understood what was happening and remained in disillusion for many years, when I finally realized that my husband would never change, that he was totally incapable of loving me and that I no longer wanted to spend my life in an abusive relationship, I knew I had to share my story with other victim’s.
My study led me into another long-term narcissistic relationship and finally to a complete recovery nearly five years later. My recovery wasn’t complete however, until I had taken what I learned about narcissism and shared it with others who were going through the same thing I went through.
I want to be clear that in no way am I qualified to offer a professional opinion on how this disorder develops in a person, nor will I attempt to do so. I share my story with you for a few reasons.
First, I have always found it incredibly healing to write. In my opinion, if you don’t have a means to channel your pain, it will stay within you and become toxic. Writing this book has been a catharsis for me. Writing and music are outlets I cannot live without.
The second reason I share my story with you is because I have found hearing from others who have had a similar struggle as my own to be very helpful. The majority of literature on the topic of narcissism is written by mental health professionals and clinicians. While these individuals are extremely qualified, they have not experienced what it is like to try to love a narcissist. I do not believe one can truly understand what it is like to love a narcissist unless they have been through it themselves.